For most of my life, the month of September has been my favorite time of year. I loved school and I always loved starting a new year in the fall. Different teachers and classmates plus new things to learn. I love the weather in September – warm days and cool nights. The AC can usually be turned off and the windows opened. Also, I can start thinking of the upcoming ski season in September and planning trips and buying new gear and dreaming of long snowy runs in the sunshine.
Mr. Phat’s and my song was September by Earth, Wind & Fire. We sang the Baa Dee ahhhs together so many times. We met on Labor Day, 2006 so our code was always 9406. We celebrated 9/4/06 for 10 years until we got married on 9/15/16 and then we celebrated both days. Our wedding bands were engraved with one word – September. Chris’s band broke and he always would laugh after it was repaired saying it now said Sep-ember.
If you recall in the song, “Do you remember, the 21st night of September?” That date was significant to EWF because it was Maurice White’s son’s birthday and that’s why the date was picked for the song. In 2020, the 21st day of September was the date that Mr. Phat and I had to put our beloved Jack Russell down, so the date took on a whole new meaning. It also started a very fast, long slide down a dark hole for Mr. and I.
So I am not so eager to embrace September this year. I only hope that I can remember a conversation with a dear friend this summer who has had a lot of grief in her life – where she said that sometimes the anticipations of the “firsts” following death is worse than the date itself. To that end, I have arranged a nice dinner part for some friends on our 5th anniversary in 2 weeks to hopefully embrace the essence of what Chris and I were to each other. I will remember Abbie on the 21st with a smile and a long walk with her “sister” pup Stella. And I will continue to play September and thank Maurice, Phil, Ralph, Al and the rest of the band for creating so much music that was the soundtrack of Chris’s and my life together. And I will try not to let the Lyrics get in the way of the groove.