I’m not sure how much I’ve divulged about my personal life on this blog, so I’ll let you in on a little secret. “It’s a Boy!” My ‘step daughter’ and her husband are expecting a child in April. Her father and I aren’t officially married, but we’re together and very committed to one another, and marriage is just not important at this point. I was mother of the bride two years ago when they got married and now I’m going to be a grandmother. My step daughter’s mother passed away of breast cancer when she was 13.
I never had children, nor did I really want any. I didn’t seem to have that maternal thing, but I had 18 nieces and nephews when I was married and I always thought I was one of the favorite aunts. I still think I’m one of the favorites to the 9 children of my siblings. (ok, other favorite aunts, if you’re reading – I know that you give me stiff competition and I’m not trying to take the wind out of your sails). People have asked me how I would respond when the step daughter and husband announced they were expecting. I didn’t have to think about it too much because Mr. Phat didn’t think it was going to happen. His daughter is now 30 and he just didn’t think it would happen and I didn’t ask. I was sensitive about it growing up and so I didn’t want to put them on the spot.
When they came over with the ultra sound photo wrapped up for us, you could have knocked me over with a feather. I cried immediately and am so excited to be a part of this. My response even surprised me! My family is so excited and it was fun to call my sister and sisters in law to tell them I was going to be a grandmother first!! Hey, I got to be mother of the bride first too!!
So today was the “sex lunch” as Mr. Phat called it. My step daughter suggested it’s the “reveal lunch” following their ultra sound to determine the sex. Everyone was convinced it was a girl. Why do we do that to ourselves? We all think because she’s not just all baby out front that it’s a girl? But it was serious enough that the father to be had been psyching himself into thinking that a girl would be great – he really wants a boy. We’ve been testing girl’s names out as well.
Shock when the step daughter opened the note from the technician at our celebratory lunch and it was a boy!!!
Oh boy. I’m going shopping for Red Sox onesies right now!!